I learned a long time ago that we can choose our response to many of life’s circumstances.
We do have options.
One of my options during my hellish encounter was to stay mad. Big mad.
But I’ve witnessed first-hand what bitterness and anger do to a person.
I know what harboring hurt and resentment look like and it’s not a … Read more...
Here’s the thing.
What the self-help books, enlightened folk, and sages of our day may not always tell you is that once you get healed…
Once your eyes are opened…
Once you’re no longer seeing and reacting to life through the lens of your past hurt…
That some of the relationships you forged in your hurt state, don’t suit you … Read more...
I had a lot of excuses for not taking a girls trip.
I was too big and the thought of others seeing me in a bathing suit horrified me.
The kids were so young.
I didn’t like crowds.
My good friend Misti shot down all of my excuses in a recent video.
Apparently if your girlfriends love you, they love … Read more...
When you think of a bathroom, rather public or private, many different things or events may come to mind. It is a place designed and known for relieving oneself, showering or bathing, or beautifying oneself. More recent, the bathroom has become known as a place for checking missed calls, perusing through emails, or checking text messages. But for most women, … Read more...
My fat days were coming to an end as the curvy body positivity movement started to make its away into our social media feeds and onto our TVs. There was Gabourey Sidibe’s sexy love scene on the TV show ‘Empire.’ Ashley Graham, a plus-sized model, graced the cover of Sports Illustrated Magazine—the swimsuit edition! Then curvy yoga became a thing … Read more...
I wouldn’t call myself a loner, but I do like spending time by myself. Don’t get me wrong, I have friends and am soon to be a wife, but there is something about that alone time that is so appealing to me. I remember when I first got into my relationship I explained that I LOVE to be alone. I … Read more...
For some women asking for help is the last thing they want to do.
I should know. I was one of them.
I would tell myself, there’s so much to be done, I don’t even know what to ask for.
Then there’s the “they won’t do it like me” speech we give ourselves.
You tell yourself you don’t want to … Read more...
Showing ourselves love can be difficult.
The guilt that comes from taking a moment can be paralyzing.
Surely there are more pressing needs than say, oh, getting a pedicure or a massage right?
Anybody that knows me, knows I love a good pedicure. I pay extra so I can have 50 minutes of foot pampering complete with hot stone massage … Read more...
The word only has two letters but sometimes they can seem hard to utter.
That’s due largely in part because we care what others will think of us if we say the word no.
Then there’s the martyr/savior who wants to save the world and over commits because they want to be the hero or they fear things won’t get … Read more...
Here’s what I know for sure…when you’re non-confrontational and a little bit of a passive aggressive…people will speak all manner of crazy to you because they know you won’t verbally respond. They may have their work/project sabotaged later but you wouldn’t dare speak your mind because somehow it’s not Christ-like to be confrontational but sabotage/getting even is OK?
If you’re … Read more...
