For some women asking for help is the last thing they want to do.
I should know. I was one of them.
I would tell myself, there’s so much to be done, I don’t even know what to ask for.
Then there’s the “they won’t do it like me” speech we give ourselves.
You tell yourself you don’t want to bother any body or be a burden to someone else.
Then there’s no one would understand and I’m the only one going through this situation.
Or maybe you tell yourself, folk have their own problems and not that they won’t help you but can’t help you.
We have these conversations in our head and drive ourselves mad.
We run ourselves ragged because we either too proud to ask for help or deep down we really want to be the hero.
Some women don’t have a village but by asking key people, teachers, school counselors, they can at least point you in the direction of a good village.[tweet_box]Loving yourself means it’s OK to ask for help.[/tweet_box]
Loving yourself means it’s OK to delegate tasks.[tweet_box]Loving yourself means it’s OK to sometimes say no.[/tweet_box] It also means it’s OK to say yes when someone offers to lend a helping hand.
Here’s what I know for sure…people who love you and genuinely care about you will not think any less of you because you asked for help. You’ll still be the same wonderful person they always knew. Trust me, this is totally possible. It really does happen.[tweet_box]If it’s help for your physical health, mental health, spiritual health…don’t be afraid or ashamed to ask.[/tweet_box]
And just because you need help today doesn’t mean you’ll need it tomorrow.
Next time the situation could be reversed and you’ll find yourself helping out another dear soul in need of understand and relief.
Loving yourself is permission to ask for what you need.
We have not because we ask not.