There are so many things happening in the world right now. Things I can’t control. But what I can control — and what I must control — is my intake. My inbox, my timeline, my feed… they all pour into me, and I’ve decided my peace is too valuable to let them flow unchecked.
That decision led me to face a truth I had been avoiding: I had over 50,000 unread emails across my accounts. 50,000 digital remnants of past versions of me — the hustler, the scrambler, the one still trying to figure out how to “secure the bag” with $5 offers and fear-based funnels.
That version of me no longer exists. And so today, I set her free.
I took a Marie Kondo approach to my inbox. If it didn’t spark joy, it had to go. If it was tied to fear, scarcity, or manipulation, it got deleted. I unsubscribed from everything that no longer serves the woman I am today.
- No more 5-step funnels designed to manipulate people into buying things they don’t need.
- No more fear-based marketing that tells me I’ll fail if I don’t act right now.
- No more strategies rooted in survival mode.
This is soft living.
Cultivating a soft life means curating my peace. It means curating access to me — even through my emails.
Because if every part of my life is sacred — my home, my body, my work — why wouldn’t my inbox be sacred too?
I’m cultivating my peace. Intentionally. Deliberately. And part of that work is clearing space for the kind of energy I actually want to receive.
The world may be chaotic, but my inbox? My inbox will be a sanctuary.
This is your reminder — release what no longer serves you. Unsubscribe. Delete. Let go.
Because peace isn’t passive. It’s a practice. And for me, it’s part of my soft life.
This is just the beginning — the first step in decluttering my life and decentering everything that no longer belongs at the heart of my story.
Lisa N. Alexander is the author and founder of This Woman Knows and What Million-Dollar Brands Know. She is an award-winning filmmaker, director, producer, and writer and is the owner of PrettyWork Creative.
