How a Female Relationship Coach is Helping Men Navigate the New Dating and Relationship Landscape
While the “Me Too” Movement has shined the spotlight on a topic that had long been ignored and has led to thousands of women breaking their silence, it has also had a ripple effect beyond the workplace. It has impacted the dating landscape.
“It’s scary. I don’t know what to do, what to say and how to say it,” says one gentleman who hired relationship coach, Apollonia Ponti to help him navigate the new dating environment.
Ponti, an International Coach Federation certified coach with more than 16.7 MILLION YouTube views and 160,000 subscribers says, she has noticed a trend among her clients who are genuinely looking to meet the right woman, build relationships and create families. “Some of the men I work with are afraid of living in their masculine energy,” says Ponti. “They are tiptoeing when it comes to approaching and having conversations with women, especially in the work setting. They don’t want to offend women in any way, and fear that their genuine advances may be misunderstood.”
Ponti says while the “Me Too” Movement has been empowering for women, it has also created an environment where we are teaching men how to diminish their masculinity instead of teaching them the difference between toxic masculinity and healthy masculinity.
“As women, we, instinctively crave masculine men and many of us do not necessarily always want to take the lead. Yet we are teaching men the opposite – how not to take the lead. We need to play our respective roles in each other’s lives – however you define those roles in your relationship. We must find a way to co-exist in a healthy, respectful manner,” says Ponti.
Ponti hosts Authentic Attraction Bootcamps in Miami, New York (July 6th, 2019) and Los Angeles (September 14th, 2019) where she addresses this and many other topics.
For anyone struggling in this area, she offers three tips:
- Get Educated.
Every man should learn and understand the importance and value of the “Me Too” Movement.
- Understand The Specific Woman You Are Approaching.
Women are more emotionally connected and do a good job of understanding the presence of a man. But men are more instinctive and visual. The good news is that knowing how to be emotionally connected is a learned skilled, one that Ponti teaches. “Once men understand that there are three types of women and that their approach must be tailored to each type, then they become more respectful and more successful with their approach.”
- Set Boundaries When It Comes To Escalation
There should always be open communication. Men must learn to listen and understand a woman’s boundaries when it comes to escalating any type of interaction. “Saying things like ‘If it’s moving too fast, please let me know’ makes the woman feel like she is being respected and allows for both people to have clarity about their time together and circumstances.”
Ponti devotes her time to helping men find love. “I believe we are in this world as humans living a spiritual existence and the one thing that keeps this world revolving is LOVE. And, if I can help people understand that and be more comfortable with love then I’ve lived my purpose.”